I Need You

The ecstasy of love is strong and blinding. All of the flaws of your sweetheart faded behind the radiance of your enchantment. Now the glow is a glimmer of resentment and disappointment and the inadequacies of your mate pound like an annoying leaky faucet.

The love is recoverable with the proper perspective and willingness to invest in your relationship what it needs to mature through the tests of time.

First, rekindle the perception there is no dream or person more important to you than your mate. In a culture that screams, “It is all about me!” you must realize it truly is all about your beloved. Love in its purest state does not focus on what is received by giving. Rather, it is a decision to love through the disappointments. Communicate fully with your mate so mutual love exchanges with patience and understanding. What you have already invested is worth the struggle to appreciate its value.

Remember the joys of your life together so far. When offenses have loomed over time, cloudy days are the only forecast in sight. But was not it good when it was good? How did your boo make you smile? The first kiss you shared set off fireworks in the twilight. You can still feel your darling’s heart beat in sync with your own cadence. You are off track, but it is not over.

Do not be lured so quickly to the uncertain possibility of a better place at a new address. You give more dedication to your old car. Though the new smell has dwindled to the fragrance of apathy, you still press regularly to a mechanic for routine maintenance. Give your relationship that same opportunity. A professional can offer proven techniques to polish the tarnish off your bond and reveal the luster hidden beneath. Many people going to a counselor set time restraints for resolve. Remember, your relationship is a marathon, not a sprint. Commit to the process and monitor the progress. As long as you see achievement, you know you are on the right path.