Weight Loss is Contagious for Partners in Couples Counseling
Mar 06, 2019
Instead of feeling self-conscience about the love handles, people who participate
in couples counseling often lose weight together in a positive way.
Getting fit and eating healthy has a ripple effect on a partner's weight
loss. For a spouse who don't feel as attracted to his or her partners
due to weight gain, it's important to handle
the issue in a delicate way. Weight gain after settling into a marriage
is extremely common. At the same time, it's also natural for one spouse
to feel resentful that the other spouse "let it all go." A fit spouse
might feel as though the overweight spouse
betrayed him or her by gaining weight. The good news is a study in the
Obesity journal discovered that one partner's commitment to fitness
helps the other partner lose weight. A clinical trial followed 130
couples. One of the spouses followed a formal weight-loss
program. One-third of the spouses who were not involved in the formal
weight-loss program also lost weight. Of course, the opposite effect
happens when one partner sabotages the other partner by bringing pizza
and junk food into the home.
Getting the conversation started
Participating in a couples therapy is an easy way to get a healthy lifestyle going without offending the overweight partner. It's important to find out if the overweight partner is using food as an emotional crutch instead of dealing with emotions and problems. A counselor helps couples figure out how to make a plan and reduce power struggles.
Finding the motivation within
Most people won't successfully lose weight and get fit just to make a partner happy. In fact, studies show people who lose weight and keep it off feel motivated for health reasons. A counselor helps you get clear about the motivation for losing weight. It's also important to set other goals in addition to weight loss and fitness goals. It's a red flag of larger marital problems if a partner is not willing to adopt a healthier lifestyle. Some red flags that you need couples therapy to deal with food issues include competitive and negative comments about food.
Accepting the new partner's look
Some partners have
trouble dealing with the diet success enjoyed by a spouse. If a woman
loses 50 pounds, she suddenly becomes more attractive to other men. Some
spouses view a partner's transformation as a threat or
interpret it as self-centered behavior. During couples therapy, partners
explore their insecurities and issues. It's important to learn good
communication skills, but sometimes a person doesn't even know what's
really causing all the angst. While a dietician
can help a family with meal-planning and healthful eating tips, a
dietician can't fix deeper problems that stem from childhood issues,
abuse or infidelity in a marriage. Marriage takes work. Oftentimes, it's
about exploring our relationships with people in
the past as well as our "relationship" with food itself.
Instead of making weight loss a competition, get closer by exercising together, exploring more activities and cooking healthy meals. Considering eating meals together without the distractions of cell phones and television. Couples who take the time to eat together every night often feel bonded. It's not necessary to turn every dinner into a romantic candle-lit dinner, but spend time talking about the day. If possible, follow the same weight-loss approach unless a dietician suggests otherwise. Working together on a positive goal often brings couples together. Seeking couples counseling is often the first step to getting a marriage back on track. For more information about couples counseling, please contact us today.